Sobriety Navigator: Chronicles of Adult Children of Sex Addicts
Growing up in the presence of sexual addition creates overwhelming confusion in children. The interrelations of the mind, the body and the sense of self become fractured and distorted. Below are some examples.
Common beliefs of Adult Children of Sex Addicts:
- Love is a myth and all relationships revolve around sex.
- When the lust wanes the relationship ends.
- Sex is the only intimacy required for marriage.
- If you are celibate there is something wrong with you.
- If you’re not in a relationship you are selfish.
- You have overwhelming feelings of disgust and contempt for sex.
- You pretend to be sexual so that people will not think there is something wrong with you.
- You will get into a relationship with someone you don’t like for appearance sake only, knowing this person can’t hurt you because you don’t care about them.
- You find your own form of self-medicating in order to combat the feelings of toxic shame.
- You’re ashamed of yourself and your family.
- You feel like you’re in a dream and nothing is real.
- You question your perspective and judgment a lot because it is unacceptable to question the sex addict adults.
- You have no clue what normal feels like.
- You role play in order to appear normal.
- You have broken boundaries and will give into pressures to be a part of the crowd.
- You have no idea how to be true to yourself.
- You have a fragmented sense of identity since we derive much of our identity from our sexuality.
- Secrets are a normal part of life.
- Lying is a normal way of life.
- Leading a double life is normal.