Sobriety Navigator: Alcoholics Anonymous an overview of Step 1:
Step One: “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.”
The first part is to acknowledge that we are powerless over alcohol. This is the realization that must be explored by every problem drinker. Have I lost control over my drinking? Have I sworn off alcohol time and time again only to end up intoxicated? Do I break promises because of my drinking? Am I unreliable because of my drinking? Is my behavior unpredictable because of my drinking? Am I ashamed and embarrassed because of my blackout drinking and telephone calling? Do I drink and dial? Do I hide my car keys from myself so that once I’m intoxicated I won’t get behind the wheel of my car and drive? Do I make sure that sober people will always be around who can take over my responsibilities for those who are dependent on me such as children, elderly, handicapped people or precious animals when I start drinking?
The second part of the first step is that our lives have become unmanageable. Am I ashamed of my drinking? Has my drinking caused living problems for both me and my family? How does my drinking affect my standing in the community? Am I living the life I want? How are my relationships with myself and others? How are my finances? How is the overall state and condition of my immediate family? Are my children and dependents able to trust me? Am I meeting my obligations and responsibilities to others? Is the vast majority of my life plagued with irrational fears? Fears of the unknown, of people, fear of economic insecurity, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of losing what I have, fear of not getting what I want? Do I have a constant need to control everyone and everything around me? Do I fear surprises and unpredictability? Am I sick and tired of being miserable? Have the coping skills I’ve used all my life stopped working for me?
These are just some of the questions you could ask yourself about your life being out of control and not being able to maintain stability, physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually.
It is important to recognize the unmanageability of our lives caused by our drinking. Chaos, confusion, fear, overwhelming insecurity, self-doubt and rage are not the constant companions of a sober person.
The first step to changing all of this is a desire to stop drinking.