Feb 7, 2017
Emotional Incest Syndrome
Do these "endearments" sound familiar to you?
"Of all my children, I expect the most of you." TRANSLATION: I'VE SELECTED YOU TO BE THE ONE TO MAKE MY LIFE WORTH LIVING.
"You've never caused me a minute of trouble." TRANSLATION: IGNORE YOUR OWN NEEDS, I CAN'T HANDLE THEM.
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Feb 7, 2017
I Have A Self
To thine own self be true
And it shall follow as the night follows the day
Thou canst not be false to any other man. (William Shakespeare)
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Nov 12, 2015
I see my hurt for what it was.
If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.
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Nov 12, 2015
I am able to make changes
The absurd man is he who never changes. (August Barthelemy) Forgiving & Moving On, Tian Dayton, Ph.D.
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Aug 24, 2015
PRAYER
Give me the courage to be honest with myself. Keep me from causing harm to myself or others. Help me learn about the tremendous power and healing of honestly sharing who I really am. (Melody Beattie) 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact
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Aug 24, 2015
Daily Affirmations For Adult Children Of Alcoholics
WE CAN CHANGE our mental picture of ourselves and our lives through positive affirmations. What we choose to believe about ourselves will ultimately rule our world. (Rokelle Lerner) Daily Affirmations
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Jun 17, 2015
Forethought and Decision Making
"I Say that the strongest principle of growth lies in human choice." (Geroge Eliot)
Decisive: Settling an issue; producing a definite result; having or showing the ability to make decisions quickly and effectively. (Oxford Dictionary of English)
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May 3, 2015
Secrecy as Protection, Secrecy as Power, John Bradshaw, Family Secrets
This is what makes me crazy in this family, Dad...I can't stand it when I share a simple fact about this family's history, and I'm told by you or Mom that it didn't happen. (Pat Conroy, The Prince of Tides)
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Mar 23, 2015
The only wrong decision is one made for the wrong reasons.
As addicts, it is important for us to avoid impulsivity and all-or-nothing thinking. We can take our time, and talk our feelings through until we feel comfortable with the choice we make. (Answers in the Heart) Hazelden Meditations
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Jan 13, 2015
Fear of Being Loved
My fear of being loved is an outgrowth of my past; I will no longer permit it to drive me away from natural fulfillment.(Daybreak) (Maureen Brady 1991)
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Nov 11, 2014
Fear is a sure sign that I am relying upon my own strength. Anonymous
No wonder we begin to feel afraid when we feel that we are relying on our own strength. Fear is a realistic emotion to an unrealistic situation. (Meditations For Peope Who (May) Worry Too much) (Anne Wilson Schaef)
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Oct 21, 2014
I accept that I will never fully understand - I embrace the mystery.
The soul is restless and furious; it wants to tear itself apart and cure itself of being human. (Ugo Betti) Forgiving & Moving On. Tian Dayton, Ph.D.
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Oct 8, 2014
You can't drive straight on a twisting lane. Russian proverb
Admitting my powerlessness over my addiction offers me a way back from my addiction. It is an invitation to accept myself as I am and to go on from here. (Answers in the Heart, Hazelden Meditations, 1989)
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Oct 5, 2014
The winds and waves are always on the side of the ablest navigators.
I know I needn't blame the world for my shortcomings. I am finding a harmony between by desires and reality as I learn to trust my relationship with the world. (Edward Gibbon, Answers in the Heart)
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Sep 24, 2014
Lying
A commitment to honesty does not necessarily require that we disclose facts about ourselves that we would prefer to keep quiet. The truth could well be "I'd rather not say." (Lying by Sam Harris)
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Sep 22, 2014
I am not another person's crisis.
If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs, it's just possible you haven't grasped the situation. (Jean Kerr)
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Sep 17, 2014
The Chinese say
The Chinese say, “The deepest pain has no words.” (Tian Dayton, Ph.D. Trauma and Addiction.)
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Sep 16, 2014
Bad things happen to good people
“Bad things happen to good people” That is true. But it is also true that good people overcome bad things and come out better off than they were before. (Joel Osteen, Every Day A Friday)
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Sep 15, 2014
Remember the law of humor
“Remember the law of humor.” “Whenever we can’t remember the last time we laughed, it’s time to do it.”
(Melody Beattie, 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact)
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